In this blog I’m exploring the idea that your energy is influenced by the people around you, and why it’s worth keeping an eye on who’s in your inner circle. I’ll hold my hands up and admit that I don’t know where the phrase ‘find the tribe that matches your vibe’ came from, but it’s the perfect fit for this subject! It encourages us all to seek out a community or group of people who share similar values, interests and energy to us. It’s about finding a group of like-minded individuals with whom you feel a strong connection and sense of belonging to. Their support helps you to chase down your dreams and achieve your goals. Crucially, without having to fend off ‘energy vampires’ and other people who don’t share your passions or who kill off that vibe!
What do I mean by ‘vibe’?
It’s all about what makes you, you! Your unique energy, personality and outlook on life. For me, that’s being positive, kind and open to learning about new things that help me get what I want from life. Other people might want to hang out with thrill seekers, adventurers. Some love to be around people who are obsessed with ‘hustling’ every moment of the day, or anything else!
Why it’s important to find the tribe that matches your vibe
When you find a tribe of people whose vibe matches yours, you’re more likely to feel understood, supported and inspired by them. When you’re working hard to foster a positive mindset, develop mindfulness and be kind to others, this is more important than ever. That’s because when you trust the people around you and feel supported by them, you’ll enjoy deeper connections, personal growth and a sense of fulfilment.
Foster an inner circle of people on the same wavelength as you
When you work for yourself and spend a lot of the day along, or you’ve become focused on personal growth, it’s a great idea to surround yourself with like-minded people. People who resonate with who you are and who you aspire to be like. To avoid letting negative energy bring you down, why not be a little bit selective? Cultivate an inner circle of people who have similar goals and ambitions. You might find them when you’re in-person networking or online. I run and go to online coworking and networking sessions full of ladies who are definitely in my ‘tribe’!
Know what to do about ‘negative Nancys’ and ‘energy vampires’
But of course, we all come across people who aren’t on the same wavelength as us. Perhaps you’ve onboarded a new client and didn’t spot some red flags until you’re already working with them. Or someone close to you is going through a tough time and going into a negativity spiral. Whatever you want to call them – two of my favourites are ‘negative Nancys’ and ‘energy vampires’ – you’ll encounter them at some point on your money mindset journey! If someone isn’t aligned with your vibe, it’s important you have tools at hand to protect your energy. Here are three to get you started:
- Bathe in ‘good energy’ after you see them
What makes you feel energised? It might be putting your favourite songs on to raise your vibration! Or perhaps it’s taking a walk out in nature. Whatever you do, try to do this as soon as you can. You can even explore forgiveness rituals or mediation to clear yourself of their negativity. That way you’ll get your energetic frequency up and your mindset back on track ASAP!
- Make time to see someone who definitely is your ‘vibe’
If you know you’re seeing someone who, either temporarily or habitually, drains your energy, plan to see someone who does the opposite afterwards. The people who make you feel like you can conquer the world. The ones who make exciting, crazy plans alongside you and just lift your spirits. That’s who you need to go for a coffee with! Or book a Zoom call for some co-working or plan share a bottle of wine with them.
- Know your boundaries
It might be that even after trying those steps, you still find this person is bringing you down. If so, it’s OK to decide that your energy is more important. Firstly, try limiting your time with them a little. You can also try to turn the conversation to positive topics when you are together. If that doesn’t work, then explain how you feel and say that you need to take a break. They may not react well, but it’s better than either you carry on resenting them or cut off contact without explanation.